The Couple: Melissa Howell Crawford and Ryan Crawford
Wedding Date: August 29, 2009
Tell us a little about you and your beloved: Ryan and I met in December 2006 through a mutual friend…well kind of. A girlfriend and I had always spent our Thursday nights at a particular bar in San Francisco where we knew the bartenders well. On the evening we met Ryan’s friend (whom I had also known) was tending bar (he normally tended bar up the street, at one of Ryan’s regular spots). When Ryan arrived he went in to give Ben an aggressive handshake from across the bar and practically knocked me off my stool. After giving him a not-so-nice look he felt obliged to buy me a drink and it was all up-hill from there. We were engaged on August 31, 2008, and married almost a year-to-date later on August 29. We are best friends and continue to challenge each other every day. I love him with all my heart.
What was the most amazing part of your day? The whole day was amazing but there are a few things that really stand out in my mind:
1. Seeing my dad’s expression seeing me in my dress for the first time. My dad had been very involved in helping with the wedding but one thing he was not involved in was in selecting my dress. It was a surprise to him as it was to Ryan. Sharing that moment with him was very special and a feeling I’ll never forget.
2. Seeing my future husband for the first time as my dad walked me down the aisle and watching him biting his lip to hold back the tears.
3. At the end of the night when Ryan and I danced with all of our guests while the band played Journey’s “Don’t Stop Believing.” Everyone was dancing along and singing along. It’s something Ryan and I still talk about to this day!
What else would you like to share about your big day? S ome people would probably say that I was a bit anal when it came to the wedding — specifically about what I did and didn’t want — but with it being something I had dreamed about for a long time. I wanted it to be perfect. Although the flowers and a lot of the décor was done by my fabulous floral designer, Emily, I did a lot of DIY projects along with the help of my family and dear friends.
Anything paper related I did myself including the ceremony programs, seating cards, menus, and table numbers, etc. I bought all my paper products at Paper Source and my mom and I hand stamped and embossed them all. I found a menu stamp (yes we stamped and embossed 150 menus) and little stamps with a cow, fish, chicken and carrot to determine each individual’s dish which appeared on their seating cards. My dad cut all the paper goods to perfection to put together the table numbers and even made my cake stand!
I purchased all the ribbon used in our wedding at an amazing ribbon store in San Francisco called the Ribbonaire and I also turned to Anthropologie for the cake stand feet and the hanging lanterns that were used in the entry way display to our reception.
I found “my something blue” a small laced handkerchief at a local antique store and attached my “something borrowed” a locket from my grandmother (my dad’s mom) that was given to her by my grandfather on their wedding day with the picture still inside to my bouquet in honor of her.
Ceremony Site: Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant & Spa
Reception Venue: Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant & Spa
Photographer: Lisa Richmond Photography
Wedding Planner: Erin Hoops with Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant & Spa
Cake: River City Cake Co.
Flowers: Embellish Floral Design
Favors: After finally coming to a decision on favors, we decided to make homemade caramels with sea salt. I have no idea how that came to mind but it did and it was a project! My mom, dad, myself, and a very close family friend spent 12 hours in the kitchen a couple days before the wedding (on probably the hottest day of summer) to make them. With burns and blistered fingers; they were definitely made with love! We wrapped them in parchment and boxed them in mini boxes, wrapped in decorative ribbon and embossed with a “Thank You” stamp.
Wedding Dress: Wtoo Brides by Watters & Watters purchased at The Unique Bride
Bridesmaid Dresses: Jim Hjelm purchased at The Unique Bride
Hair: Jessica at Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant & Spa
Makeup: Wendy at Wine & Roses Hotel Restaurant & Spa
DJ/Entertainment: Larry Lynch and the Mob (Band)
Honeymoon location: Rosewood Mayakoba, Playa del Carmen, Mexico
Any other of your wedding vendor(s) you’d like to call out? She’s not a vendor, but Mrs. Mary Turcotte, my pseudo-grandma and day-of helper! If it weren’t for her I don’t know how I would have stayed calm.
First Dance Song: “You Are The Best Thing” by Ray Lamontange
Any advice you’d give to our readers who are planning their weddings right now? Take it all in. Take a few minutes to look at everything from your cake, to your flowers, to your guests. The night goes by SO fast and you’ll want those images in your head to reflect back on. And secondly, just come to the realization that you are going to go over budget. It’s bound to happen!
Anything that you would have done differently if you were given the chance? My family will give me a hard time about this but I would have ordered the Chiavari chairs!
Photos courtesy of Lisa Richmond Photography.