Jess and Ben are high school sweethearts. They met when Jess was a freshman, and Ben was a sophomore. Two of their friends were dating, and they decided to set up Jess and Ben on a blind date. “Growing up, I would always tell my friends that I was never going to marry Ben, mainly out of annoyance because they would say it all of the time,” she says. “Ben was always very kind and mild tempered—especially since I can be very headstrong and stubborn. The fact that he put up with that was a big plus!”
After years of happiness, Ben started planning his proposal. “I purchased the ring about two or three months before the proposal, but I really had no idea how I was going to pop the question,” he says. “One day, I had been counting how many months we had been together—no idea why I was doing this—and I noticed that in February, we would have been together for 100 months. A coincidence like this was too good for me to pass up!” Ben went to the Internet and found a site where he could write and illustrate a book about their relationship.
“The last page says, ‘And on the 100th month, Ben proposed.’ I, of course, had no idea how I was going to give this book to Jess but I knew it had to be in February and as close to February 10th as I could get. We ended up going for a hike on February 12th. I had no plan going into the day besides ‘I’m coming home engaged,’” he says.
Jess said yes as well as saying, “It’s about damn time!” And into planning they went. With Jess’s experience as an event coordinator, she knew what she wanted from their wedding day. “I love to plan,” she says. “Assisting with other couples’ weddings is definitely more fun than planning your own wedding, but I loved almost every minute of the planning. My favorite pieces were the details—décor pieces, guest book, table numbers—and the progression of everything as it came closer to the deadline.”
As the day arrived, the emotions felt by the couple were mixed. “I felt very excited and nervous, not that I was getting married, but more that I would have 100 people staring at me,” the bride says. For Ben, he felt like he was on a roller coaster all morning leading up to the ceremony. “Nervous, anxious, excited, everything,” he says. “After the ceremony was over there was a whoosh of relief and it was just pure joy and happiness for the remainder of the wedding.”
A memory that sticks with Jess is the first dance. “I felt so at ease just really being in the moment of us and our love, and it felt as if he and I were the only ones at our wedding.”
Jess & Ben's Wedding Resources
(crossback chairs and table top rental)
(flatware, goblets, chargers, napkins)
Sandals Regency La Toc in St. Lucia, and Disneyland
“Violin” by Amos Lee
“Mama” by Carrie Underwood (Mother/Daughter Dance)
“You’ll Be In My Heart” by Phil Collins (Grandfather/Granddaughter Dance)
“Landslide” by Fleetwood Mac
“Accidentally In Love” by Counting Crows
Our DJ played a very special last dance song where he revisited our first dance song and the remaining guests surrounded us as we danced one final time as Mr. and Mrs. – truly one of my favorite parts of the evening.
Cake/Dessert Details: French Lemon Cake and Salted Caramel Macarons, and Rose Macarons
Desserts from Freeport Bakery: Lemon Bars and Caramel Pecan Tartlets
Special Flower item: My husband is a duck hunter so I had my florist
add his duck feathers into his boutonniere
Custom beer koozies
• Every moment from our wedding was so perfect and amazing, I could not have asked for more perfect vendors. With my family being very female heavy we all had a moment during the Mother/Daughter dance where we formed a huge circle and all danced together which was very special.
• We decided to include our pup, Millie in the wedding, she is our pride and joy. 😉
• The venue we got married at is actually where I work as the sole Event Coordinator which made it that much more special to have my work family both present and working our wedding day.
• Make a decision and stick with it, even if you see something you think you like better; this will make you second-guess every decision you make. Don’t stress and once you check something off of your to-do list keep it checked off and don’t look back. 🙂
• Also, keep DIY items to a very minimum as your guests won’t really pay attention to all of your hard work, they are there for you both, the food, dancing and the gorgeous photos/video following.
I think we would have chosen to keep our pup at the wedding for a longer amount of time, at least through dinner. We would have paid more attention to our dessert bar — we unfortunately missed out on these items but we did go purchase more once we got back from our honeymoon!