Marriage is all about compromise. Sharlyn and Ian started early when they compromised on their wedding expectations. “I wanted a bigger wedding,” he says. “Sharlyn wanted a really small wedding or elopement.” They decided to marry in a fall wedding in front of 64 guests at Schrammsberg Estate. They chose the ceremony and reception venue for its beauty and proximity to the groom’s hometown, as well as their budget needs.
The couple, who met at work—she’s a winemaker and he’s a wine cellar supervisor—dated for a year and a half, before getting engaged at the beach. Their wedding nearly a year later was officiated by the groom’s best friend. Sharlyn and Ian wrote their own vows and designed the 20-minute ceremony. The couple didn’t have a wedding party but their respective sisters were witnesses.
During their first look, the groom got a nose bleed due to the elevation and weather. Still, he didn’t let it spoil the moment. “Seeing her and knowing what was about to happen was a very wonderful feeling,” he says, calling his bride “stunning.” Sharlyn was eager to say their “I do’s.” “I was really anxious and excited because all I wanted the entire day was to see him,” she says. The ceremony was the bride’s favorite part of the day. “Getting to make that commitment to each other was the best part,” she says, noting she cried the entire time.
They wanted a simple gathering with outdoorsy and slightly rustic vibes. Their burgundy and peach color scheme was perfect for fall. The couple and their guests enjoyed dinner, cake and dancing. “During our first dance, which we had taken lessons for, Ian almost dropped me during our big finale dip,” says Sharlyn. “Thankfully he didn’t!”
The day went fast but the couple made sure to savor some alone time. “We shared some appetizers and a glass of wine in the office of the house on site,” he says. Ian’s favorite detail was a gift from his new wife: cuff links that have the internal components of watches. He’s also a fan of the head piece Sharlyn made for herself. The bride appreciates the guestbook photo album, explaining, “I loved getting to see pictures of everyone from the wedding next to the note they left for us.”
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• Mini-Moon immediately following wedding: Stinson Beach Airbnb
• Delayed honeymoon in May: Marriott Beach Resort in Kauai and Maui
“Speechless” by Dan and Shay
“It Won’t Be Like This For Long” by Darius Rucker
“What A Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong
“Sugar” by Maroon 5
“Don’t Stop Believing” by Journey
• Lemon cake with raspberry filling and buttercream frosting
• Donuts! All kinds
• Burgundy dahlia, ivory rose, astilbe, daisies, ferns for greenery
• Fiddleheads for boutonnieres
Custom donut bags to take donuts home from the wedding
• We had our closest friend officiate our wedding. It was really meaningful to have him involved and I loved getting to create the ‘script’ for our ceremony ourselves.
• For our guest book, we had everyone take a Polaroid picture of themselves and tape it down in a blank scrapbook and write a note next to it. We brought it with us on our mini-moon and had a lot of fun the next morning looking through the Polaroids people had taken and the sweet messages they had left us. I plan on keeping these pages in the scrapbook and adding wedding photos to it later so we have all of our memories in one spot.
• I made my hairpiece! I knew what I wanted to have but couldn’t find something like it that wasn’t several hundred dollars. I bought some beads, crystal, and wire from Michael’s for $20 and was able to make EXACTLY what I wanted. I’m still proud of it to this day.
• I LOVE the woman I found for my bouquet preservation! She is the sweetest and met me in person on our drive to our Mini-Moon so I didn’t have to pay $50 to ship my flowers. We had an in-depth phone call between her, my husband and I so she could get a feel for our personalities to help her design our preservation. I was able to get a necklace made with some of my flowers in it and a bunch of keepsakes for my close friends and family. Her passion for her work is incredible and I cannot stress enough how much of a joy she is to work with. I recommend her to everyone!
• Our DJ was also the best and we still get compliments on him all the time (almost a year after our wedding). He was so thoughtful and made the music aspect of our wedding a breeze.
• The cufflinks were custom-made watch internals and it was a unique fun mechanical touch to Ian’s suit.
• As soon as you get engaged, start a shared wedding music playlist. A friend of ours gave us this tip and it was the best! We added everything from potential first dance songs, potential processional/recessional songs, to just songs that we loved and knew we would want played for dancing at the end of the night – it ranged from instrumental Piano Guys songs to Megan Trainor. As we got closer to the wedding we shared this playlist with our DJ so he knew exactly what type of music we liked and had a TON of songs to pull from for inspiration. (As a bonus, we now have a playlist of all our wedding music to listen to whenever we want to reminisce!)
• It’s probably not going to go perfectly… Ian got a bloody nose during our first look and had to leave for half an hour until it finally stopped, and Sharlyn got stung by a wasp under her dress in the first few steps of her VERY long walk down the aisle. You really have to expect the unexpected.
• We wouldn’t have had a cake cutting. We didn’t spend much on a cake but did spend a decent amount on flowers to decorate it. The next morning, we realized neither of us wanted to have a cake cutting but thought it was important to the other person – it ended up just feeling like an interruption to the fun, dancing part of the night.
• Sharlyn: I would have eloped. The stress (and cost) of a wedding was more than I could handle so I didn’t get to enjoy the start of our marriage as much as I wanted to. I’ve never been the type of girl who dreamed of her wedding her whole life, I always dreamed about what it would be like to commit myself to the man I love forever. If I could do it all over again I would elope so the focus was more on the commitment we were making to each other rather than the party we were throwing for everyone else.